How to Make a Difficult Decision (Part 4): Four Practical Things to Do When You Can’t Decide

(This is Part 4 of a 5-part series)

Let’s review the three principles of decision-making:

  1. Put your undivided, unwavering, wholehearted TRUST in God.
  2. Don’t seek to understand. Seek to OBEY.
  3. If you follow God’s ways, you’ll always be in God’s will.

Still not sure what to do?

Here are four practical things you can do when you can’t decide.


Sometimes, if you’re stuck, you just need to start.

  • Start reading the Bible regularly.
  • Start praying consistently.
  • Start giving generously.
  • Start serving sacrificially.
  • Start connecting relationally.
  • Start counseling/therapy. (trust issues?)

Throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy. (Ephesians 4:22-24)

Maybe the first step for you in knowing God’s will is to start walking in His ways.

Ask yourself: What do I need to start doing in order to start moving down God’s path?


  • Stop doing the same thing over and over again.
  • Stop and rest.
  • Stop and wait.
  • Stop and pray.
  • Stop and ask for advice.
  • Stop (habitually) sinning.

…let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. (Hebrews 12:1b)

It could very well be that one thing that’s keeping you from taking hold of what God has for you is the one sin you won’t let go of.

Ask yourself: What do I need to stop doing in order to start moving down God’s path?


Sometimes the best thing you can do when facing a difficult decision is nothing. Don’t move. Just stay put.

So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. (Galatians 6:9)

I am convinced that far too often we break down just before we breakthrough.

We give up just before the payoff.

Ask yourself: Am I moving on because it’s the right thing or the easy thing?

When contemplating leaving something: If you don’t know, don’t go.

Sometimes the best decision you can make is the decision to stay put when it would be easier to walk away.


A wise friend once told me when I was wrestling with a difficult decision: “If you’re 80% sure, you’re sure.” That’s some of the best counsel I’ve ever received about decision-making.

You’ll never have absolute clarity. You’ll never be 100% sure. You just won’t ever really know until you go.

However, there’s a difference between leaving something and going somewhere. Make sure you’re running to, not running from.

The Lord had said to Abram, “Leave your native country, your relatives, and your father’s family, and go to the land that I will show you. (Genesis 12:1)

God told Abram to go, but he didn’t tell him where. He just tells him, “You start moving and I’ll tell you where to stop.” Abram didn’t know what God was doing. He didn’t understand. But he obeyed. And his faith is legendary.

Here’s the reason why many of us don’t go when God says so: God’s direction almost always leads us away from safety and security.


So that we will trust in Him.

Ask yourself: Will this cause me to trust God more or will it be easy to trust Him less?

The best way to take a leap of faith is to get a good running start.





Through it all: TRUST.

Will you trust that God is good even when life is not?

Will you trust God’s plan even when you don’t understand?

Will you trust God with your whole heart?

Whole financial portfolio?

Whole family?

Whole career?

Whole body?

Whole life? 

If we seek God’s will, He will show us which way.

And if we follow His way, we’ll always be in His will.

Next up: Part 5 – It’s Personal

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