TWO LIES We Believe About WORK

If you’re like most people, you’re not exactly looking forward to Monday. Monday1

  • 50% of workers show up late for work on Mondays.
  • Productivity of the average worker is less than 30% on Mondays.
  • Studies show that most people don’t even smile until 11:16 a.m. on Mondays.
  • Heart attacks increase by 20% on Mondays.
  • More suicides occur on Mondays than any other day of the week.

Even if we love our job, it can be difficult to reset after a relaxing weekend with friends and family. Why is that?

Unfortunately, most of us will spend more of our waking hours at work than we will at home. Many of us will spend more time with our co-workers than we will with our own family members.  We will spend more time in our lives working than sleeping, eating, playing, and being with friends and family. So having a job that you hate and co-workers that you can’t stand can make for a miserable “Moan-day” – a miserable life, really.

What if you could reset your mind for the daily grind?



In order to do that, we have to first understand the TWO LIES that we are believing about work.


LIE #1: Work is a NECESSARY EVIL work

And to the man he said, “Since you listened to your wife and ate from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat, the ground is cursed because of you. All your life you will struggle to scratch a living from it. It will grow thorns and thistles for you, though you will eat of its grains.” (Genesis 3:17–18, NLT)

Because of sin, work became hard. It will wear you down and wear you out. That’s a promise.

But just because work is hard doesn’t mean it’s bad. Work was given to Adam before sin entered the human race and God called everything He created – even work – “good.”

Work is NOT a necessary evil. It is a necessary GOOD. 


LIE #2: You ARE what you DO

This is especially true for men. If a man meets another man for the first time, what’s the first thing he asks him? So… uh… What do you do?

We don’t care if you’re married or have children. We don’t want to see pictures of your family. It doesn’t matter where you live or have lived. We don’t even care what your name is.

Why? Because that’s NOT your identity. Your identity is what you do.

This lie leads many men to become workaholics.

If you are defined by what you do, then you better do it well and you better do it a lot. We judge others and we judge ourselves by how much money we make, how many projects/people we manage, how productive we are, etc. If you get your identity from your work, then why would you want to be doing anything other than work?

We believe that what we do is who we are.

That’s a LIE!

Men, the TRUTH is: Your identity is NOT found in what you do, but in who you are.

So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as his own children. Now we call him, “Abba, Father.”” (Romans 8:15, NLT)

You are NOT a slave to the grind! You are NOT a slave to other peoples’ expectations! You are NOT a slave to what other people think of you! You are NOT a slave to your past or your present. What you do is NOT who you are. You are a son of God! That’s your identity – whether you are a minister, mechanic, machinist, or manager.

That’s the truth!

It’s time to reset your mind for the daily grind!

Have a great week doing what God created you to do – WORK.

Watch the talk this post is excerpted from. 




2 thoughts on “TWO LIES We Believe About WORK

  1. Please, please, do not overlook the immense pressure that women also face with respect to their work by saying that it “especially applies to men” or “men, your identity…” In fact, when women look to scripture for guidance we see the description of an “virtuous and capable wife” in Proverbs 31 (who spins flax, gets up early, preps the house, inspects the crops and makes successful investment decisions, works into the night, is always busy, helps the poor and needy, prepares for winter, not only sews items for her clothing and home, but uses her craft to be an entrepreneur… And on top of that has a good attitude, it always kind, keeps track of everything… AND, lastly, has well behaved children and a husband who praises her.)

    I think the point is well taken that our work should not be our identity, but by saying it especially applies to men misses the daily reality and struggles that many women also face. If the need to call out a distinction between genders is necessary, I think it may be more impactful to say, “for men, the struggle tends to look like… And for women…”


    1. Thank you for your comment Kiki. I certainly didn’t mean any disrespect to women. I’m sure many women do face that same pressure, but in my experience, not nearly to the same degree or breadth as men. From my “vast knowledge of the female experience” it seems to me that more women struggle with identity issues related to body-image and motherhood than work. Men can have those struggles too (fatherhood), but the primary tension is with work.
      When a man meets another man the first thing he asks him is “what do you do?” It’s a question of identity. I don’t think this is the opening question for most women. That’s why I said it “especially applies to men.” It applies to everyone that struggles with work-identity, but men in particular have this as a major issue.


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